Thursday, September 06, 2012

How to Have a Clean Heart

What does it mean to have a clean heart? Before I get to this, let’s discuss how the heart gets unclean in the first place. Take for a moment and think about when a baby is born, they have no care in the world. They are depended on their caregiver. They don’t think about bills, who don’t like them, who will they married; they have absolutely no care of anything. They do have emotions they feel happy, sad, pain, etc. Initial a new born baby don’t have an agenda, so their hearts are clean. They have nothing to be jealous about. They have nothing they need to be competition for. However, as they get older they start experiencing life. They experience life with their families and they get involved in friendships, relationships and begin to develop deeper emotions. These same emotions will be the determination of whether a person ends up with a clean heart or unclean one. Many people have grown up with a lot of pain and suffering, that is why so many people hurt each other. When a hurt person hurt another, it’s really something that went on in their childhood or life experiences. So now, they are going through life developing all these hateful & unhealthy emotions towards others, such as: envy, jealousy, competitiveness, hate, un-forgiveness, possessiveness, controlling, slandering, thoughts of murdering someone, intimidation, etc all because they are hurt. However, being hurt is not excuse to hurt others. Allowing your hurt to turn your heart unclean is dangerous.

Do you know how important your heart is? The heart is responsible for pumping blood through your arteries and veins, which allows you to receive oxygen throughout your body, so you can live. Without a heart you are dead, literally! So it’s important to take care of your heart physically and emotionally. When we harbor bad emotions in our heart we cannot fully receive the blessing of God in our lives. Moreover, unhealthy heart opens the door for heart disease, anxiety attacks, stress, fear and it will weaken your heart day by day; harboring these types of emotions in your heart is simply not worth it. That is why it’s imperative that you begin to live life with a clean heart. Having a clean heart means to be FREE, free from past hurts, free from bad emotions, free from being hurt by others, free from fear, free to love, free to live for God and not to please others. A clean heart is freedom!

We all have been hurt; it’s how you let that hurt affect your heart that will really matter. Personally, I don’t like any type of negativity, whether it’s from other people or from my own thinking. Spending time with God daily will help you from negative and bad emotions. If I experience a negative emotion, I do ask God where is this coming from, why do I feel this way? You’ll be surprise to find out, it’s something within you that awakens negative emotions, and it really has nothing to do with other people. God love has shown me that I don’t need to think like that. I shouldn’t have these bad emotions because it doesn’t benefit me and it just draws me away from Him right into Satan playground to become his puppet for mischief. Have you notice how some people can easily say negative things about others, spread lies, cause drama? They are Satan puppets. I don’t know about you, but rather not have Satan having any part in my life.

I am at a place where the only thing that truly matters in my life is my relationship with God and I just won’t allow anything or anyone to distract me in my relationship with Him. I like my clean heart. I like that I don’t harbor bad emotions towards others, no matter what they have done. I absolutely LOVE my PEACE; once you have peace in your life, trust me no matter what you will not allow ANY type of negativity!!! I like that people who try to hurt me CAN’T get to me, that’s power! When people try to hurt you, it’s because they are trying to rob you of your peace and all the good qualities God has given to you and since they don’t possess any themselves (or think they can’t), they don’t want you to have it. Just knowing that, gives me more strength to not response to their hateful way. So how do I keep my heart clean?

First, Forgive. Yes I know it’s hard!!!!!! But trust me let it go! It’s not worth it. It’s not worth it. It’s not worth it! Forgive, even if you didn’t do anything wrong. Forgiving doesn’t mean you have to hold hands with the person and skip around town together. Forgiveness is more about NOT holding anything against the person any longer. Whether you get back in a relationship with the person is between you, the person and God. I wrote a three part blog post on the topic of forgiveness in April, 2012, you can check it out under the blog archive. What helped me forgive more is having my peace and not allowing someone who has done me wrong to go around thinking they won. People, who hurt others, want you to be hurt; don’t allow such evilness to win. When you are a child of God, you are the one that should have the victory.

Second, Throw it out! Yes trash those negative thinking out of your mind and heart. When bad emotions come up, find out where it’s coming from, get a scripture to meditate on until you no longer feel that way. A great scripture to meditate on no matter which bad emotions you are dealing with is, Romans 12:21 “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good”. Moreover, the bible tells us to cast it down, 2 Corinthians 10:5 “Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ”. Work on doing this, until you get to a place where you at peace and happy. Remember you have the ability to control your thoughts, so you don’t have to let your thoughts control you.

Third, Life goes on and so should you! Sometimes I’m surprise when people bring up a person that has done them wrong and remember every detail of it. It just reminds me, that this person hasn’t move on with life. You have to learn to move on; some things are just not worth bringing up or even remembering. Your past is your past and it’s only a few things you can do with it. Such as, learn from it, don’t repeat the mistake, grow from it and don’t allow it to control your future. Allowing your past to control how you treat others or what you do in the future is not wise. It’s true you have to be careful who you allow in your life, but don’t allow it to control it. You will be surprise how some people don’t even remember the bad things they have done to others, so why should you remember and harbor bad emotions and keep it in your heart? Let go & Move on, because Life do go on.

Lastly, Guard your heart and keep your heart clean. Stop allowing people to sow negativity into your life. Don’t allow others or yourself to dwell on things that are not fruitful, helpful, and positive and a blessing to you. Control your emotions, but have the ability to express yourself when you are hurt, don’t be silent about it. Spend time with God cast all your cares to him; your father loves to fellowship with you. Let the Holy Spirit guide you with whom you should fellowship with, date, marry, spend time with. Many people are hurt by the very people the Holy Spirit has already told them to stay away from. Devote time to doing positive things and listening to positive things, reading positive things and meditating on scriptures. It’s your heart and no one can take care of it, but you. Take care of your heart!

Scriptures to Meditate On:

“Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me” ~ Psalm 51:10

“Do not let your heart envy sinners, but always be zealous for the fear of the LORD.” ~Proverbs 23:17

“A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. “ ~Proverbs 14:30

“If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. “~Colossians 3:1 (ESV)

”But what comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart, and this defiles a person.” ~Matthew 15:18 (ESV)

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. “ ~Romans 12:2 (ESV)

“The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.” ~ Luke 6:45 (ESV)

“Do not fret because of evil men or be envious of those who do wrong; for like the grass they will soon wither, like green plants they will soon die away.” ~ Psalm 37:1-2

“For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.”~ James 3:16

“If you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such "wisdom" does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, of the devil.” ~ James 3:14-15

“Therefore, rid yourselves of all malice and all deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and slander of every kind.”~ I Peter 2:1

“Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life” ~Proverbs 4:23

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. “~Philippians 4:6-7

”Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” ~ Philippians 4:8